Friday, February 21, 2014

QUIET The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain - Review

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At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society--from van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.

Passionately argued, impressively researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet shows how dramatically we undervalue introverts, and how much we lose in doing so. Taking the reader on a journey from Dale Carnegie’s birthplace to Harvard Business School, from a Tony Robbins seminar to an evangelical megachurch, Susan Cain charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal in the twentieth century and explores its far-reaching effects. She talks to Asian-American students who feel alienated from the brash, backslapping atmosphere of American schools. She questions the dominant values of American business culture, where forced collaboration can stand in the way of innovation, and where the leadership potential of introverts is often overlooked. And she draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to reveal the surprising differences between extroverts and introverts.

Perhaps most inspiring, she introduces us to successful introverts--from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Finally, she offers invaluable advice on everything from how to better negotiate differences in introvert-extrovert relationships to how to empower an introverted child to when it makes sense to be a "pretend extrovert."

This extraordinary book has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.

My Review / Thoughts:

This is such a different book.  I have to admit I probably would have never picked it up, had it not been for wanting to go to a friends book club.  This was the book for the month.  It is so, not what I read.  I am so glad I did though.  It was very interesting.  I have two fabulous introverts in my sweet family.  My amazing husband, and my sweet oldest daughter.  They are both such fantastic individuals, but we are so very different.  I am so NOT an introvert, although while reading this book I have discovered I am more of a ambivert (definition:  one whose personality type is intermediate between extrovert and introvert).  I put that there because I had never heard this term before.  While reading I kept telling myself I think that maybe I am an extrovert with introvert tendencies.  Then this term came to light.  

There are so many great things talked about in this book.  When I was done reading this book I honestly with I could say I was an introvert.  They seem to possess some fabulous qualities.  Not that extroverts don't, but introverts seem to be among the most successful people in the world.  This book honestly helped me understand my sweet husband and daughter so much more.  There were several times while reading that I thought "man that sounds just like my family".  It helped me understand what might be going through their heads.  

I don't think I will ever understand how a person gets to be an introvert, but this book certainly sheds a new light on how, why, and so forth.  It is just so interesting.  There are so many things talked about in this book and so many great examples, that I couldn't put it down.  I know.  Sounds strange right.  I do not like "self help" or stuff like that at all, but this book was so fascinating.  It has such a great insight into a world that I am not familiar with.   I honestly with that I was an introvert.  Something I NEVER would have thought I would say.  I sometimes give my husband and daughter a hard time when they are in their "quiet" place.  Now, I am totally understanding that so many great things come to those who are patient, quiet, and reflective.  I wish those were qualities that I possessed.  Although, I am realizing the older I get the more introverted I am becoming, and now I am totally okay with that.  Even, VERY okay with it.  

I have to say to Susan Cain, congrats on such a great read.  It is so interesting, enlightening, uplifting, and such a great look into the life of an introvert.  I love that this book opened up a whole new world of understanding for me and the introverts in my life.  One day I want to be just like you!

**Source:  I bought this book to read for a book club.  I was not compensated in any way for this review.  These are my own PERSONAL thoughts on the book.

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About the Author:

SUSAN CAIN is the author of the instant New York Times bestseller QUIET: The Power of Introverts in A World That Can’t Stop Talking, which has been translated into more than 20 languages. Her writing on introversion and shyness has appeared in the The New York Times; The Dallas Morning News; O, The Oprah Magazine;; and on Cain has also spoken at Microsoft, Google, the U.S. Treasury, and at TED 2012. Since her TED talk was posted online, it has been viewed almost two million times. She has appeared on national broadcast television and radio including CBS “This Morning,” NPR’s “All Things Considered,” NPR’s “Diane Rehm,” and her work has been featured on the cover of Time magazine, in The Atlantic, Wired, Fast Company, Real Simple, Fortune, Forbes, USA Today, The Washington Post, CNN,, and many other publications. She is an honors graduate of Princeton and Harvard Law School. She lives in the Hudson River Valley with her husband and two sons. Visit: 

Before I became a writer, I practiced corporate law for seven years, representing clients like JP Morgan and General Electric, and then worked as a negotiations consultant, training all kinds of people, from hedge fund managers to TV producers to college students negotiating their first salaries. My clients have included Merrill Lynch, Shearman & Sterling, One Hundred Women in Hedge Funds, and many more. I went to Princeton University and Harvard Law School.

From all this you might guess that I’m a hardcore, wonderfully self-confident, pound-the-table kind of person, when in fact I’m just the opposite. I prefer listening to talking, reading to socializing, and cozy chats to group settings. I like to think before I speak (softly). I’ve never given a speech without being terrified first, though I’ve given many. And somehow I know that everything I’ve ever accomplished, in love and in work, I owe to these traits, annoying though they may sometimes be. I’ve explored this paradox in my first book, QUIET.

I live on the banks of the Hudson River in an 1822 captain’s cottage with my beloved husband, sons, and magnolia trees. My favorite activities are reading, writing, lounging around cafés, and doing the mambo with my family. I use a lot of old-fashioned expressions. A few times a year, I try to like cooking. I’m insatiably curious about human nature.